Today, we continue to discuss the topic of Asian romance scam. You can read the first part of this article here:
Where do all of the women come from who’s pictures and profiles are attached to these scams?
A good question with a simple answer: they’re fake. The pictures can be bought or harvested from websites with little effort or cost. Profiles are created and designed to appeal to men by emphasizing different backgrounds. Since many men have no knowledge of the areas where these women supposedly live, the scammers can lie as much as they want. They create as many fictional women as they want or think they can use. The scammers use the fake accounts to strike up conversations with men around the world. The entire game seeks to draw men in to the point where they will start sending money to these “women.”
The scam offers countless options for the person running the con. The “woman” might need help getting their VISA, tickets, or other travel documents. Or perhaps there is a sudden family emergency or health problem. Maybe the soft approach is used and the “woman” asks for a cell phone to call the man she likes or loves. Requests might come directly from the supposed woman or they might come through others posing as travel agents, government officials, or family members. The common element? Money. A little bit of money and the process of uniting the man to the loved woman can continue.
If loneliness is the bait, love is the hook. The scam relies on the man’s passion and the compulsive behaviors that often accompany new love. The scammers often experiment to find the methods that work best. Occasional chats become more frequent. The chatting moves to emails or phone conversations (which are often female translators posing as the woman.) Innocent topics turn into discussions about fantasies. All of these elements fuel the “flames of love” and keep the man returning for more (by periodically chatting with him on the phone or sending him descriptions of “her” erotic fantasies).
How can a person guard against this?
The first thing you can do just happened. Did you notice? You learned about the scam. Now you can watch for it. I know, it doesn’t sound like much. Like most things in life, knowing about the possibility positions you to be wary of it.
The second thing to remember: when the time comes, you do the traveling. If it turns out that the woman is a fraud, at least you get to see a foreign place, right? However, that is not likely to happen since most of these scams stop when they realize no money is coming. But, in case you make the trip, stay in public areas and only bring as much cash as you need.
What if someone is already caught up in one of these situations?
Stop sending money!
Tell her that you’re having financial hardship right now and can’t help. Then wait a few weeks and see what happens. If this is a scam, she will probably keep asking about money or might disappear. If it is not a scam, then you might need to reconsider your relationship if she is already so dependent on your finances.
Remember, there are people seeking love, but there are also predators.
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